Anonymity
This gentle reminder is printed on a blue card (available through the Book Depot Online) and is usually posted in our meeting rooms. We also rely on Tradition Twelve, which states that “Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.”
When we enter the rooms of Al-Anon, whether virtually or in person, we do so as equals regardless of our professional, educational, social, or financial status in the world. We leave all of that behind because we have one thing in common: our lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking.
We also safeguard the anonymity of our friends and family members, whether they are alcoholics or not. Instead of focusing on their behavior or their personal choices, we attend Al-Anon meetings to learn and share about our own recovery. We can only change ourselves.
Program calls between members are encouraged; and when we do call someone, it is very important to respect that person’s anonymity. If someone else answers the phone or we get a recorded message, we should avoid references to Al-Anon unless we are told otherwise. Leaving a name and telephone number should suffice.
If we see someone we recognize from a meeting, it is best when we are out in public to simply pass by or offer a friendly nod so that person will not have to explain to someone else how or why we know each other.
Everything that is said between members or in a meeting setting — whether virtually or in person — is treated as confidential. This creates a safe space for us to share from our hearts in Al-Anon.